Archive for the ‘Marriage’ Category

pc_fiveI found this interesting article. It focuses on irritations in your marriage.  However, you could apply these principles to any relationship.


Marriage Partnership
Fixing Those Irritations
Requesting change is a 3-step art. Here’s how.
Gary D. Chapman

Friday, September 12, 2008

Soon after the wedding, the process begins. That adorable, “perfect” person starts to irritate you. Behavior you could never have imagined appears. You discover your spouse doesn’t know how to fold towels “over and under” and doesn’t seem interested in learning. Your mate knows how to open drawers but not how to close them. Even the way they load the dishwasher is irritating.

But you’re certain that with a little instruction, the person you married will change. Several months later, your spouse still isn’t responding to your improvement program. So you begin a new approach: manipulation. You find out what he likes and use it to get what you want. You manipulate by sex, flattery, flowers, even new cars. By the end of your first year, your frustration level has sky-rocketed and you resort to arguments, tears, temper tantrums, and threats.

Karolyn and I struggled with these irritations. I know manipulation doesn’t work, because I tried it. We can’t demand change; we request change. (more…)

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images-2Well if you can’t get things in via the front door, why not try a side door?

SAN FRANCISCO —  Same-sex marriage might not be recognized in most states, but it is in the dictionary.

Merriam-Webster included a secondary definition of marriage to recognize same-sex relationships several years before gay couples were allowed to tie the knot anywhere in the United States, but the change had gone largely unnoticed until the conservative World Net Daily news site reported it Tuesday.

“One of the nation’s most prominent dictionary companies has resolved the argument over whether the term ‘marriage’ should apply to same-sex duos or be reserved for the institution that has held families together for millennia: by simply writing a new definition,” World Net wrote in an online story published Tuesday.

In its Web and print editions, Merriam-Webster defines marriage as “the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.”

But in a nod to evolving ideas of love and English usage, the Springfield, Mass.-based company in 2003 added a secondary meaning for “marriage” as “the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage.”

Merriam-Webster said in a statement Wednesday that the edited entry merely reflected the frequency with which the term “same-sex marriage” had popped up in print and become part of the general lexicon.

“Its inclusion was a simple matter of providing dictionary users with accurate information about all of the word’s current uses,” the company said, adding that it was surprised by the recent attention because it was “neither news nor unusual.”

“We were one of the last ones among the major dictionary publishers to do this,” said Merriam-Webster spokesman Arthur Bicknell.

Boston-based Houghton-Mifflin, publisher of the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, modified its definition of marriage in 2000, adding a fourth example to the entry: “A union between two persons having the customary but usually not the legal force of marriage: a same-sex marriage.” (more…)

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flm90005the-notebook-postersI found this today and thought it was interesting.  What do you think?

We talk a lot about relationships at Epic and I’ve counseled tons of couples about love and relationships. Often I help people separate fantasy from reality…the crazy idea that love should be easy and the reality that is love and marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice.


At times I’ve joked those movies are like “chic porn.” Just as pornography gives a man a completely unrealistic expectations of women, I think Chic Flicks / Romantic Comedies have the ability to give women a completely unrealistic expectations of men. In the study they questioned people and their opinions about relationships through movies from 1995-2005. Here’s Dr Bjarne Holmes findings:

“Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it….We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people’s minds….The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise.”

Click here for the full study.

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Our radically confused society is debating the meaning of marriage with increasing intensity. That question leads to a host of other issues—especially the boundaries of sexual behavior and the nature of procreation. No one is untouched by this debate.

Confusion in society spreads easily to the church. To help bring a biblical perspective to these discussions, Christianity Today offers this special section, the first of a series. Here we focus on the meaning of marriage in light of the national debate about gay marriage. In future issues, we'll go down other paths.

Click here for article.

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   The Lutheran Church Missouri Synod President, Dr. Gerald Kieschnick, issued a statement on marriage.  This statement is timely since several states will have ballot initiatives to redefine marriage.  Please click the following to read his statement.Download Protecting_Traditional_Marriage_Statement.pdf 

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